Makeup shaming is making someone feel bad or guilty for wearing or enjoying makeup. Typically women are judged for trying too hard, or not trying hard enough..how can we win!?
Society sets impossible beauty standards for women, these standards have been heightened in recent times with social media. The perfection that was once so distant in glossy magazines, now seems normal with thousands of amazingly beautiful women given the platform to be seen. But what if (god forbid) you don’t “wake up like dissss”?
Lately trends have been praising ‘natural beauty’ and this is fantastic..if you are a natural beauty. The women that are lucky enough to be born this way or rich enough to become this way are seen as wholesome, less shallow and more “honest” by both men and women.
Leaving women that wear a little make-up (or a lot, you do you gurl or boy 😉 ) perceived as people that are high maintenance and insecure. We feel bad if we don’t fit the definition of typical beauty and guilty if we try to meet these same expectations.
In two minutes i can pop on some mascara and concealer and feel 1000% better about myself. Then BAM a comment from a family member or friend “you’re putting mascara on?! but we are just going to the shops” or the “You don’t need any make-up, you look fineee”. Yes i know i look fine, but quite frankly i can look better so I’m going to.
Whether we like it or not humans are judged based on appearances, first impressions are often visual. Make-up can provide an even skin tone to a person that suffers from severe acne, instead of them staying at home feeling depressed it frees them to in fact be themselves and have confidence.
One of the main trends that comes up on the subject of make-up shaming is pictures of women before and after make-up (examples below) posted by men with the comments “this is why i have trust issues” or “this is why you take a female swimming on your first date”. What these men don’t understand is “this” is not for you..and as one very eloquent and anonymous woman put it “I don’t see why i’m being blamed for a man being stupid enough to think i have sparkly gold eyelids”.
Make-up is not worn to trick or lie to people, it does however give many people the chance to be their true self that isn’t held back by the fear of being judged on a visual first impression. It creates an equal chance for their inner beauty to be seen.
So the moral of the story is, if you have been make-up shamed..screw the haters. Do what makes YOU happy and confident, if someone judges you thats their problem not yours.
On the other hand if you have make-up shamed or judged..SCREW YOU!..just kidding. What i meant to say was next time you go to judge someone take into consideration that wearing make-up doesn’t harm anyone, if it makes someone happy then you should encourage them to be their best selves.
Check out the amazing video of Jomar Valentin reading her poem “in my skin” click this link below.